Review: Unfu*k Yourself: Get Out of Your Head and Into Your Life

Unfu*k Yourself: Get Out of Your Head and Into Your Life by Gary John Bishop
My rating: 5 of 5 stars

"October 29, 2018 – page 161
72.85% "This book is explaining how our lifes are ruled by our expectations... and then we talk about "Free Will"..."
October 26, 2018 – page 161
72.85%
October 26, 2018 – page 139
62.9% "So what was it?

I may not be able to guess exactly what you were doing, but I can be certain of one thing: you were uncomfortable. Put a slightly different way, you were most likely operating outside of your “comfort zone”.""
October 26, 2018 – page 139
62.9% "Well, you probably weren’t sitting on the couch pondering your navel. Chances are you weren’t wrapped up in in the humdrum of your everyday existence either, or mentally calculating the sharp rise in the price of milk since 1977."
October 26, 2018 – page 139
62.9% ""Maybe you made a really big sale, started a new business, or bought a house. Maybe you got married to the love of your life or went back to school or completed a marathon. It could be anything you’re truly proud of.

How the hell did you achieve it?"
October 24, 2018 – page 139
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October 24, 2018 – page 115
52.04% "You are not your thoughts. They’re just a bunch of random things running through your head. Much of them you have no control over.

Eventually we’d all like to have better, more positive thoughts. But sitting there isn’t going to make it happen.""
October 24, 2018 – page 115
52.04% ""“I am not my thoughts; I am what I do”.

That’s your newest personal assertion, the phrase that sums it all up. Go ahead, try it out. “I am not my thoughts; I am what I do”."
October 24, 2018 – page 115
52.04% "Don’t know what to do or where to start? Good, that’s your first action. Find out, understand. Trawl the internet, read books, ask questions, take courses, seek advice, do whatever you need to do to unfuck yourself and get into your life.

Get up on your feet and get going.""
October 24, 2018 – page 115
52.04% "It’s all about action. Going out there, doing it and taking all your negative bullshit along for the ride. It’s never going to get any better, any easier or any more understandable. This is it, life is now and you’re never going to have a better moment than this."
October 24, 2018 – page 115
52.04% "We could go on and on. The point is, positive thinking isn’t a predictor of accomplishment any more than negative thinking indicates failure. All of the people described above acted independently of their internal condition. You can too."
October 24, 2018 – page 115
52.04% ""On the other hand, think of how many people with negative thoughts have gone on to become wildly successful.

All the legendary musicians with drug problems. All the pro athletes with anger management issues. The models with unhealthy body images. The millionaires with scarcity mindsets."
October 24, 2018 – page 115
52.04% "They toiled, doubted and had sleepless nights, they worried and battled and ground it out until their lives and their work finally aligned.

I mean, come on, chances are you can think of plenty of people, past and present, who appeared to have “good thoughts” but never accomplished much.""
October 24, 2018 – page 115
52.04% "They rolled up whatever was in their way, set it aside and strode out into the unknown. It wasn’t a passive endeavor. Their greatness didn’t just miraculously float out into the ether for us to consume. If they hadn’t taken action, we’d have never known what their passions were in the first place. We’d never have witnessed their greatness or wisdom."
October 24, 2018 – page 115
52.04% ""Do you think Gandhi or Rosa Parks or Abraham Lincoln were never gripped by thoughts of doubt, fear or uncertainty? How about Nikola Tesla or Steve Jobs? Do you seriously think those people woke up every day in the perfect mood with “everything’s coming up roses”, playing in their heads? HELL NO! They were wracked by the same kind of shit you are, but they acted ANYWAY."
October 24, 2018 – page 115
52.04% "Of course, your mind will always try to rationalize not acting. It’ll remind you of all the other things you could be doing. It’ll drudge up all your recent stresses and doubts.

But don’t act on your thoughts. Act on what’s in front of you.

Change your life by changing your actions. That’s the only way.""
October 24, 2018 – page 115
52.04% "Simply act. Put aside your thoughts and move.

It’s not about psyching yourself up. It’s not about getting everything aligned just right. Just act. Do it.

Not in a minute. Not after this show is over. Now."
October 24, 2018 – page 115
52.04% ""Today, I want you to do something different than what you normally do. I want you to act in a way that’s independent of your typical negative or unproductive thoughts. Act on the moment and in line with what the item in front of your face demands of you. Fuck how you feel, ACT!

Don’t wait for the mood to strike. Don’t get stuck looking for that magic feeling that will do the work

for you."
October 24, 2018 – page 115
52.04% "When you think about it, that’s basically what most of us do. We want to be driven. We think a more productive mood will chauffeur us through life, a confident mood will make things easier or more do-able. But if you want to get to where you’re going, you’ll have to take the wheel.

You have to buckle in and stomp hard on that gas pedal, whether you’re ready to or not.""
October 24, 2018 – page 115
52.04% "But you’ve got to put your key in the ignition, crank ‘er up, and put it in drive first. The car isn’t going to start itself and then wait patiently for you in the driveway."
October 24, 2018 – page 115
52.04% "Simply put, when we act, we just don’t have time for anything else! It’s hard to focus on your internal worrying and naysaying when you’re busy getting things done. It’s all about momentum. Once you’ve started rolling, it’s easier to stay moving. That road that looked so long and intimidating before starts to blur as you speed across it."
October 24, 2018 – page 115
52.04% "" what Dale says here. When we choose action instead of inaction, when we act beyond our automatic thoughts, something interesting happens: we start to forget about the things that are bothering us."
October 24, 2018 – page 115
52.04% "More specifically, act in a way that’s in your best interests rather than in a way that is dominated by how you automatically think and feel. Each time will be better than the last until your mind wakes up and realizes, “Hey, I can do this. I’m learning!”"
October 24, 2018 – page 115
52.04% "The next time you’re feeling or experiencing any sort of negative or diminishing thought that disempowers you, move on immediately. Act independently of that thought."
October 24, 2018 – page 115
52.04% "Consider this: You just messed something important up. Immediately thoughts like “I’m so stupid” and “I always screw things up” randomly pop into your head.

All this means is that your reaction to one situation is out of sync with the whole. Just like when you whine (yes, you whine), about how “impossible” what you need to do is. Your brain starts to follow that line of thought all the way down the rabbit hole!""
October 24, 2018 – page 115
52.04% "The gap between how life is and how we think life is; is often the black hole in which we fruitlessly labor.

We think things are worse or better, harder or easier than they actually are from this cacophony of background noise and judgement."
October 24, 2018 – page 115
52.04% ""Our minds often have an unrealistic perception of the world, peppered with interpretation, misunderstanding, automatic behaviors and opinions, and cultural and familial programming all laid on top of our lives like designs on a giant sheet of tracing paper while the more we strive to get our reality to match this design, the more we struggle."
October 24, 2018 – page 115
52.04% "Your thoughts start to become intuitive action over time until you start to act independently of your negative thoughts time after time after time. Are you going to think about yourself and what you lack, or are you going to deal with the actions presenting themselves right there in that moment of time?""
October 24, 2018 – page 115
52.04% "Many times those same thoughts and feelings are pulling you away from your potential. Things like doubt, fear, procrastination or frustration rule the day instead of the kind of positive action that will actually forward your life.

If you always attack the task at hand without hesitation, what will you think the next time you have something important to do?"
October 24, 2018 – page 115
52.04% ""There are a couple reasons for this. We know your thoughts can become your reality. And when your reality is one of acting on the things that are in your best interests, your thoughts will actually shift to match that. Think about this: your thoughts (and the resulting feelings) are not always aligned with what is in the best interests of your life, your health, your finances or your potential."
October 24, 2018 – page 115
52.04% ""Thoughts without actions are just that, thoughts and your negative thoughts about yourself, others or your circumstances will have no impact on your success as long as you leave them where they lie.""
October 24, 2018 – page 115
52.04% "I’ve come across literally thousands of people in my career who have spent their lives waiting to feel or think differently. And while inspiration or motivation may strike once in a while, they are fickle friends and can’t be depended on to show up whenever you need them.""
October 24, 2018 – page 115
52.04% "As I consistently say to my clients, you don’t have to feel like today is your day, you just have to act like it is.

Sure, it never hurts to be in the right kind of mood or mindset, but if we sit around waiting to be in the perfect mood, we’re just never going to get started."
October 24, 2018 – page 115
52.04% "You’re going to have days where you don’t want to get out of bed, where you don’t want to go to work, where you don’t want to take care of your responsibilities. But you do. Every day you engage in activities that you don’t really want to do. That means you already have a muscle for having thoughts and acting independently of them."
October 24, 2018 – page 115
52.04% "Many of the things I teach my clients involve changing the way you approach and look at life. But these are long-term solutions. Ultimately my goal is to help you shift your subconscious. And that, my dears, is like turning a battleship. It takes time.

No matter how hard you try, you’re going to have the occasional negative thought. Maybe more than occasionally. Maybe every day. Maybe hundreds of times per day."
October 24, 2018 – page 115
52.04% ""We have just as many pointless, irrelevant thoughts as important ones. Then there are those default thoughts that pop into your head day in and day out. Thoughts of unworthiness, being judged, not belonging or some lack of competence. All of this while going to work, paying your bills, going to the grocery store or driving your car!"
October 24, 2018 – page 115
52.04% ""The truth is, it’s difficult to have a say in, let alone control, what you think about. Especially because, as we’ve established elsewhere in this book, we’re not even aware of the majority of things we think about.""
October 24, 2018 – page 115
52.04% "Haven’t you wondered why you came up with positivity as an answer to your life in the first place? Have you ever noticed how you are when impacted or surrounded by apparently negative people or situations? That’s right, even you get gripped by the old negative hand now and again no matter how you might try and avoid it.""
October 24, 2018 – page 115
52.04% ""It’d be great if we could simply decide to never have a negative thought, but when it comes down to it, that’s just not realistic. I know, I know, my positive-thinking peeps are losing their minds at this statement but here’s something for even those people to consider."
October 24, 2018 – page 115
52.04% "What he is trying to point out... we are wasting our precious time with shitty stuff... times passes and passes and we waste it..."
October 24, 2018 – page 115
52.04% "Someone walks past your cubicle. You frantically click your mouse and mash on the keyboard, feigning busyness for the unsuspecting intruder. “Whew, that was close!”

Look at the clock again. 11:13. Another half an hour wasted. “I should really get to work... right after I...”""
October 24, 2018 – page 115
52.04% ""Quick step back to reality. You check your email. A message from your credit card company. “I’m in so much debt. I’m never going to get out of this mess. No hover shoes or lunch out for me.”

A notification from that online dating site you signed up for a few weeks ago. “I’ll never find someone. My love life is a disaster. Maybe relationships and I just don’t match.”"
October 22, 2018 – page 115
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October 22, 2018 – page 93
42.08% "Don’t stop there. Instead of simply stretching our comfort zones, let’s blow the thing up completely. Try acting in a way you’d never think about acting. Doing something completely out of character would be a great start. Embrace that uncertainty and strike a blow for your future!""
October 22, 2018 – page 93
42.08% ""Do them. Starting now. There’s no better time than this moment. Develop and grow that muscle to be with the uncertain in life. To be with the glory of life itself, unconstrained by your own limits and opinions."
October 22, 2018 – page 93
42.08% ""The person who avoids the uncertain doesn’t do this. They’re too afraid of being judged. They’re too afraid to look foolish or stupid. They are stopped, one foot nailed to the floor by an illusion.""
October 22, 2018 – page 93
42.08% "The more we try to stay comfortable today, the more uncomfortable we’ll be tomorrow. There really is no destination, there is only exploring, exploring and exploring.""
October 22, 2018 – page 93
42.08% ""As you’ve probably noticed, when you do try to stay in your comfort zone, you never truly feel comfortable. There’s always that nagging feeling that you could be doing more. There’s always that desire for a life that’s better than the one you have now."
October 22, 2018 – page 93
42.08% ""They’re not afraid of the uncertain; It’s just a part of life. They don’t seek out certainty because they know it doesn’t really exist. They are also the kind of people who are aware of and open to the real magic and miracles of life and what can be accomplished.""
October 22, 2018 – page 93
42.08% "Nothing is certain. You could go to sleep tonight and never wake up. You could get in your car and never make it to work. Certainty is a complete illusion. Voodoo.""
October 22, 2018 – page 93
42.08% ""The funny thing is, no matter how much you chase certainty, you’ll never really be able to hold it or retain it. That’s because it doesn’t exist. The universe will always send us little reminders of its chaos and power, and no one is exempt from the prompting."
October 22, 2018 – page 93
42.08% ""That’s the kind of power that uncertainty has in our lives. It can make us or break us. It can make us rich or make us poor. It can be the key to our success or drive us in the other direction.

For many people, it ends up being both.""
October 22, 2018 – page 93
42.08% "They didn’t succeed because they were certain they were going to succeed; They succeeded because they didn’t let uncertainty stop them. They did it anyway. They ignored their doubts and kept pushing forward. They were relentless when the only thing they had to fuel them was relentlessness.""
October 22, 2018 – page 93
42.08% ""There were days when they doubted what they were doing. Where they thought, “this is never going to work”. Many found themselves on the verge of giving up at numerous occasions along the way."
October 22, 2018 – page 93
42.08% "The problem is that we think too much and that's what cost us few troubles along the way."
October 22, 2018 – page 93
42.08% "You can’t. The truth is you can’t even predict what the people you know will do, let alone the people you don’t know. Whether it’s the checkout line or a night club or the bank, social situations are inevitably filled with uncertainty. Jeez, half of the time you can’t even predict your own thoughts and feelings! Think of the many times you’ve rushed to judge and then later changed your mind.""
October 22, 2018 – page 93
42.08% ""Think about it: How can you go to new places if you never leave the house? How can you make friends and start romances without meeting new people? How can you do anything new by doing what you’ve always done?"
October 12, 2018 – page 93
42.08% "Chapter 5 - Now On

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This book shows you about what most people give a fuck and for what they care and how this "Fuck"... screws you over..."
October 12, 2018 – page 93
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October 12, 2018 – Shelved
October 12, 2018 – Started Reading"

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